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"a mom like ours."
2019-04-18 @ 10:58 a.m.

i asked my brother today how things were going with SIL because i haven't heard from him in depth in a week or so. my parents went down to visit him this weekend that just passed and he texted me a few things about my mom being obnoxiously herself (one of my replies to him was actually "wow mom is so mom."), but didn't elaborate.

just now he was telling me how naturally, to ruin a pleasant day she had to start trying to clean his house and criticize his life choices and belittle him and his career aspirations. she never comes at you without an agenda. a visit is never just a visit.

he was describing to me this peer counseling position he had been made aware of, and said it was sort of like an AA sponsor, but you counsel people with all different issues, people who "have drug or alcohol addiction, or mental problems, or ... a mom like ours."

it's such a secret pain that people with normal parents can't even conceive of. it's so ..... lonely, i guess.

but hearing him say that, the way he said it, just hearing him acknowledge it after all of these years - ALL of these years! wow.

now we are two.