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little A update, love, and reconnection.
2012-08-02 @ 10:18 p.m.
SOOOOOOO, that fucking jackass. yesterday boy had off from work, and after all of the craziness with her kidnapping little A, and him realizing that she is just never going to stop, when she called to say that she wanted to go to court in the morning to get residential custody restored to her and the divorce finalized (and she would ONLY willingly go through with the divorce* if he agreed to the custody thing AND that he would again pay child support), he didn't hesitate. so he gets up, she is outside waiting, and they go to court. they get there and are told that they can't hurry the divorce along now that it is in the system. they have to wait until the 14th for their court date as scheduled. while they were waiting to be told this information, they were sitting there, and boy said, i really just need to hear you say that you think little A living with you is best for him, and his life. i want to know that you really believe that. and she admitted again that she knows it's not best for him, she's just mad that boy wants the divorce and jealous that little A spends so much time with me during the day. i can't even believe this person. so she's willing to continually disrupt her kid's life, randomly making huge life decisions for him and then changing her mind, while disrupting everything about our lives all the time in the process? just because she's jealous? by her own admission??? so they're having this conversation, and there was some form or some docket that they were discussing as well that she had to read. and she's looking at it, and boy was asking her questions about it, and he's like, "did you even READ it!?" and she says no. and he's like why not!?? it's important! read it right now! so she's looking at it for a long time, a really long time he says, and she's like, i don't understand anything that this says. i don't know what the words mean. and boy was like, are you fucking serious? you're a 30 year old, grown ass woman, sitting here with me, arguing with me about our child's future, with [this document] in your hand that you should have read and you don't understand it so you didn't even bother to try? do you understand that i want little A to live with me so that he never in his life has to feel the way you do right now??? and somehow, unbelievably, she got it. and she said nevermind to everything. boy can come pick him up on sunday, everything will go back to the way it has been, and they would write up an official document and have it notarized together so she can't change her mind again, as well as have her sign the divorce papers* (this is how she was refusing to go through with the divorce, which i mentioned earlier. if she refuses to sign, boy has to wait another month before he can file for a default judgment, then wait another 4-6 weeks for that to go through). what happens between now and sunday is anybody's guess. but right now, things are looking up. all of that is great. and then of course, boy is so great too. because he comes home after all of this, tells me the story, and i'm just fresh out of the shower (upon entering the house, he barges into the bathroom as he hears me turn the water off, grabs me and kisses me hard, and says, "thank you so much for being you"). so i'm like, hey, should i put my face on or what? are we going out anywhere today? and he's like yeah, go do it. so i go in and do it, then come out and i'm like hey! where are we going? and he's like, i don't know, i just wanted you to be ready in case i decided to take you out later and flaunt you around. and of course, what woman doesn't want to hear this!? he knows so well how to make me feel desired. throughout most of the day yesterday, he was emailing back and forth with a couple of guys from CL, trying to set something up. he said it seemed like most people posted those ads just to see what would happen; no one seemed particularly serious. i found it really surprising that he was having such a hard time considering the sheer volume of ads on that site. so finally someone wanted to meet up at this local park as a neutral spot, kind of late, after dinner. and he's on his way out the door, and he made some comment about how other people would have a problem with him doing this, and i said, if it's not hurting anyone, and it makes you happy, who cares? as long as he comes home to me, and we're honest and upfront with each other, and everything is safe? it matters not. to me anyway. maybe i'm just way out there. so he's like, wow. i can't even say anything, because then you'll know. and i'm like huh? and he says, um, how wonderful you are and how incredible our relationship is. !! SO HAPPY. SHIT. (ETA: i just realized i forgot to report the outcome of the meeting. he said that the guy whipped it out but it was not at all what was promised. he said that he thinks that his extremely disappointed facial expression gave him away, because the guy was like nevermind, i'm not into it, and left.) so i said the other day i started playing maple story again, so of course i signed in the first day and noticed that none of my buddies or guildmates were on, or had been on in a while. i know a couple of my buddies still play every now and then, but i wanted to know if my husband in game (H) was still around. we hadn't talked in over a year. so i texted him not knowing if it was his number still, and it was! he's doing super awesome, and said he was playing recently, wondering about me. i know it's totally dorky of me, but i really did have a thing for this guy, and i'm sure he had a thing for me too (we were married for two years but knew each other for three, and we played nonstop). we both knew it was ridiculous (he's in CA), but we always said, one day. of course that's impossible now because i'm with boy (well, unless H is more adventurous than i thought), but what i'm getting at here is that this guy was my best friend. back when we were really serious about playing, like 5 years ago now, H and my brother and i were thick as thieves. when skype came out? we were fucking done. H and i fell asleep on the phone together so many nights. i missed him so much! so i was just thrilled that we still had each other's numbers, and that he still plays sometimes. i would love to have the company on nights like these when boy has already been asleep for an hour and a half now. i'm really happy about this. alright, i have an hour and a half before i should go to sleep. time to explore the new maps! |