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a proud moment, i hope it lasts.
2012-01-05 @ 12:26 p.m.
i am so proud of my best friend right now, at this moment. i really really hope i don't have to change that statement tomorrow. i saw her post on fb the other day about how her kid's father, J, got dropped off by some random girl (best friend, FOR SOME REASON, allows J to live there still. things like this are why she's an idiot, incase you're just tuning in). she was like, "who was that?" and he was evasive, then finally told her it was this girl he was seeing. best friend asked about the girl and J says, "she's an SG and she's getting her MS at temple. you know, it's really weird to actually be with a hot girl for once." so naturally best friend was extremely upset and offended, but this time she FINALLY did the right thing and told him to get out and stay with his new girlfriend. then, she's actually dating this other guy who's been giving her the runaround for like 2 months now. he's had sex with like, an absurd number of people for how young he is (relative to us of course), and is always telling best friend about all of these "hot bitches" (yeah, he talks like that) that are constantly throwing themselves at him. i think it's ridiculously disrespectful, and on top of all of that, he refuses to call his relationship with best friend "dating," which boy and i firmly believe is because he wants to have an out if he decides to cheat on her (or because he already is). so finally finally, and i may be jumping the gun here, but it finally seems like she's gaining some self-respect and realizing that this kind of treatment is unacceptable. she told the guy she's dating that it's not cool to be held emotionally hostage like this, and (for now) is refusing to chase after him because he TOTALLY cooled off after she called him out.* she also mentioned how she's going to maybe go to some AA because of how kid's father's addiction is really ruining her life and particularly her relationships with other people. i hope like crazy that she does it, because she needs this. she needs support, and people who understand what she's going through, and to give her perspective. so i'm really really happy. i'm putting this energy out into the universe. because as much of a douchebaguette as she can be sometimes, she's been my friend for nearly 20 years. she's like my sister. and i just want her to finally be happy. * after she said she wasn't going to keep texting and calling him to try to figure out what's going on (because she has been for 3 days or so and he's refusing to respond with more than one word answers, if at all), she said, "where did guys get the impression that they can treat girls like this?!" and after i was done marveling at the fact that she is finally at a point where she recognizes this, i told her that it's everywhere. women are expected to be desperate and fawn over guys and do anything to keep them. shitty men do it simply because they can. this guy she's dating, who's had sex with at least 10x more people than dicks i have seen in person in my life, is treating her this way because he's never had to treat a woman any other way. he's fucked his way through a small town's worth of "bitches," referring to them as such. where would he ever get the impression that he needs to treat them with respect if they have none for themselves? get your acts together, ladies. |